“You have to daily deal with new culture, new ideas, new language, new food, new smell of air,” says Felić. “It felt at the same time very liberating at the same time very emotional, you know?”
Felić came to the US without any friends or family, so he says the friends he made here became his family. He says if he could offer one piece of advice to the wave of Syrians now being torn away from their families, it’d be this: build friendships, community, in your new home.
“It’s really important to seek out and make family from people you’ve never seen in your life. So you have your family, and you lose it, and you to go somewhere and create family from people you’ve never seen around. So you seek more to interact with other humans.”
Amir Music says he was lucky enough to stay united with his family when he had to flee Bosnia. Only his situation was made more urgent because of his mixed marriage. Music, a Muslim, is married to an Orthodox Serbian.
“My wife was working at the, with army, the Yugoslav People’s Army,” says Music. “And thanks to a major who worked with my wife, he told her, ‘Take your family and get out by 9 o’clock in the morning. And don’t come back until I tell you.'”
Music says he and his wife had one hour to pack their bags, round up their two children, and leave the country. Within few hours after they’d left, Serbian troops surrounded Music’s city and began arresting people.
“Later on I learned that they actually made a list of people who are going to be executed,” says Music. “So I was on the list.”
Music says if literally didn’t leave that morning, he wouldn’t been killed.
Today Music helps resettle other refugees, through his job at the International Rescue Committee in Oakland. What’s his advice for Syrians? He says if they’re in the position to resettle to the US or elsewhere, they should do it–immediately. Because even if the Syrian war ends soon, it’ll take years to rebuild the country. Like in Bosnia.
“It will take a really, really long time for things to get better. And they will never be the same, believe me. Never be the same. After the war nothing is the same. Especially if you have children, young children, why waste your time? Why prevent children from getting better life?”
Music doesn’t agree with US military action in Syria, but he also doesn’t think the world should stand by and watch when something can be done now: help Syrians refugees.
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