Say you’ve got a friend and that friend is in trouble. You offer help but realize that behind the smiles and gratitude, your friend doesn’t seem to know how to put it to use. And you, the helper, realize that you can’t even fully utilize the help you’ve offered because your friend can’t guarantee the minimum conditions necessary for you to deliver it.Say you’ve got a friend and that friend is in trouble. You offer help but realize that behind the smiles and gratitude, your friend doesn’t seem to know how to put it to use. And you, the helper, realize that you can’t even fully utilize the help you’ve offered because your friend can’t guarantee the minimum conditions necessary for you to deliver it.